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Firstly I want to start by saying, it bugs me that everyone assumes that if you don't like Valentines day and you're single you must be a bitter old grump whose just jealous of people in relationships this time of year. Believe me if it's ever been discussed people have said this to my face, and it's absolutely not the case and it really annoys me! If you're in a relationship, that's great and I'm happy for you, but I'd rather be single until I find someone worth my time - which seems an almost impossible feat as I do seem to attract some weird ones! One time I met a guy in a club and we got chatting and he bought me a drink; within 20 minutes he'd mentioned how 'great it would be if we got serious and I was his girlfriend' - STOP THE CRAZY TRAIN I WANT OFF! Needless to say I went and hid in the toilets until it was safe, and then I spent the night crouched behind my friends so he couldn't find me. That was MASSIVELY off topic, but yeah.
I'm a massive romantic at heart, so straight off the bat you'd assume that I love Valentines day. I would rather it didn't exist at all. I'm probably living in a total fantasy land when it comes to love; but I don't agree with there being a day set aside for people to show how much they love someone by buying lots of material things - gifts are always nice I suppose, but to me that's not what love is. Say, because your boyfriend bought you a Mulberry bag for Valentines, and someone else's bought his girlfriend a substantially cheaper gift doesn't mean your boyfriend loves you more because he parted with more cash. Love can't be measured with material possessions - so I don't think you should "have" to do it. Some people would argue that, they don't go all out on Valentines, they just have a dinner and exchange cards - maybe they get flowers from their loved ones, but I still don't like it. Wouldn't it be nicer if after a horrible work week, you got home and your significant other had made your favourite dinner and ran you a bath; or bought in some goodies to curl up and watch a film with. It's not specific to a day, it's not remotely about outdoing each other with the grand gestures; it's just about doing something nice for someone you love. I don't believe in material grand gestures when it comes to love. Booking a surprise trip to Paris is an amazing thing, but wouldn't it be nicer if it was just because the person you love has always wanted to go there rather than "it's what couples seem to do when they're in love". For me it's the little things that mean the most. If you can love someone without material things being a factor, you could lose it all and it wouldn't matter. That seems more important to me.
I believe that if you love someone you should try and show them that everyday, not just one day of the year. I know that for a lot of people, Valentines day is good for them because it makes them set aside the time to spend together - but shouldn't your goal to be to do nice things together more than once a year - or rather as much as possible? I'm not judging peoples relationships if you don't have the time you would like to spend together; it's just what I would prefer - I stopped seeing someone because he just didn't have the time to give. I don't like the idea of being told that this is my day of the year to show someone how much I love them by buying expensive gifts and things covered in tacky hearts (which by the way look nothing like real hearts, I've seen them with my own eyes). I don't like being told what to do period. Love is supposed to be this beautiful, unique, rare thing and I don't think 'celebrating' valentines day makes love any of those things. There was massive chat on twitter and, well, every corner of the internet about Tom from McFlys wedding speech that was actually a song. I watched it and I cried. That to me is romantic and beautiful, and pretty damn original.
Whenever I think about Valentines it makes me think about how ridiculous other occasions have become as well - like Easter. People get iPads for "Easter Presents" - I got a chocolate egg and was cool with it. It baffles my brain. It's marketing really, there are hundreds of adverts on TV about buying gifts for Valentines day - apparently Chocolates as dear as cars and expensive jewellery they probably wont like is the way to go. So to recap, I don't like Valentines day because: I don't like that a lot of the time it's about material things/gifts and such lark; I don't believe love should be about material things; I think you should show someone you love them as much as possible, and not on a day you're told to - yada yada yada. You catch my drift. Whenever I want to argue my point I think of that saying "A dog's for life, not just for Christmas" - well for me:
I agree. Hubby and I hate it and ppl look at us like we are mad!! We know we love eachother each day and its the little things that matter not a gift u get given on a set day of the year because u are being made to feel like u should. Im more excited about pancake day!! :)
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I'm glad you agree! Valentines just seems a bit silly to me, and a waste of money. And I'm so with you on pancake day, I'm away to buy maple syrup tomorrow! xx
DeleteI agree, I worked in a perfume store last year and a man said he spend a good couple of hundred on his girlfriend because 'he loved her' lovely thing to do but whatever happened to a box of chocolates!
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It's just too much! I don't like the idea of needing to show someone you love them by buying them things. That's why the world is as superficial as it is!! xx
DeleteTHANK YOU! Sorry, I thought I was the only one who thought Valentine's Day was horrendous. The most my boyfriend and I do is make cards and have something special for dinner.
ReplyDeleteFun fact: The same day as Valentine's Day also used to be National Impotence Day, but it's now been renamed as National Let's Talk About Sex Day. I think I would much rather have Hallmark make cards that educated people about safe sex etc. than making teddies for guilty boyfriends :P
Christina xo
HAHA! It would be smarter to have it be a day for that :) xx
DeleteI totally agree with you! I would rather not celebrate it at all but my boyfriend is quite into it he was a bit annoyed when i told him i was working it this year oops haha! xx
ReplyDeleteAww bless! You can just let him know that you can celebrate your love any day of the year, so it doesn't matter that you're working Valentines day :D xx
DeleteCouldn't agree more! My friend and I were having a conversation about this very thing recently. The ridiculous stuff that's available to buy in the shops that people are guilt tripped into thinking they need to buy for each other is crazy. It's all too money grabbing for my liking when, as you say, if you love someone you ought to be showing that every day through simple little gestures rather than buying extravagant gifts or daft 'I Heart You' teddies or chocolates brought out for one day of the year! It always reminds me of the episode of the Simpsons when the big corporate big wigs come up with ''love day'' to fill the summer marketing void between Easter and Halloween, if anyone remembers that!
ReplyDeleteLynsey xx
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I remember that episode! And I agree that it's totally what valentines day is. It makes love seem too materialistic and superficial which isn't what it should be xx
DeleteI just think the whole day is a bunch of crap. I mean if someone loves you they can give you presents on any other random day and it will be so much more special.
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I'm glad you agree! It is a silly occasion xx
DeleteSo so glad I'm not the only one! I'm all about romance and such (despite being perinially single!) but don't feel it needs to be pigeonholed to one day!
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That's why I don't like it, why only one day? Especially when that day is all about tacky materialistic things. That's not love to me xx
DeleteI couldn't agree more! And it's so annoying indeed when people think you hate it because you are single or bitter and look at you like you are the Grinch. Valentine's day is just a big marketing stunt by companies. The discount on february 15th in the chocolate is a huge benefit though haha!
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haha, that's a good view to have I suppose! But yeah I hate the whole assumption of bitter singles on valentines day, and it's the only time of year that if you tell someone in a relationship you're single they look at you pityingly. So annoying! haha xx
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